SINGING IS COMMUNICATION: A mini-training in connecting with your audience
If you are doing your first gigs, performing at parties & events or singing at open mic nights, but… you can’t seem to make a real connection with your audience…
I got you, darling!
When I started performing, I brought my shyness & insecurities to the stage. I’d be worried about making mistakes, and tried hard to avoid them. I’d be worried about looking or sounding stupid. I’d be worried about being good enough and whether I really deserved to be on that stage.
And that made my audience uncomfortable.
Sure, people would appreciate the music, they’d look up, drink in hand, smile politely, listen for a while…and then go back to their conversation.
After a few years of performing, and helping others perform with confidence, I was able to give the kind of performance I WANTED to give.
I’m talking: the WHOLE room singing / screaming the lyrics with you, laughing, crying, dancing, jumping, waving their arms, throwing their underwear at you (lol, just kidding).
Here is a little piece of info you need to understand first:
55% body language
If you’re getting the lyrics right, but your voice doesn’t reflect a genuine emotion, and you’re too shy to physically own the stage… you’re only giving your audience 7% of what you’re capable of.
Here are 4 steps that will help you give 100%, and get a raving crowd in return:
How does the song you’re singing make you feel? Name all the emotions…and this can change per line, so really take the time to identify all of the emotions. Is the first line bittersweet, or just sad? Is the second half of the chorus overjoyed, or pretending to be fine when you’re hurting? Make sure you understand the emotional roller coaster that this song reflects for you. When you connect to a genuine emotion, you can project that emotion onto your audience. When you’re faking it… they can tell.
Let’s zoom in on what the song you’re singing is actually about. Say the first line, and see if you can mean all the words. Even when you didn’t write the song or don’t 100% connect to the lyrics, you can most likely find meaning in there that you can connect to your own life & emotional world. Say the lyrics out loud, as if you’re telling a story in a conversation with a friend. Do you notice the natural dynamic way your voice moves when you talk? Copy that in your singing! See it as talking on a melody.
This exercise (also known as the Neanderthal exercise) usually *feeeels* embarrassing beforehand, but once you get over it… it always works miracles. When you say the first line of your song, and think of the emotion it holds… what is a sound that expresses that emotion? Is it a sad sigh? Or squeel of joy? An unabashed ‘YEAH!’? The options are endless, and personal for everyone. No wrong answers here! Trust your instinct on this one 🙂
Facial expressions & body movement
It’s possible to genuinely feel something, and not show it on the outside. If you tell someone: ‘I love you so much’ with a completely straight face, do you believe them? You’d probably be a little sceptical… When you understand the emotions of your song, express them with your face & body. Point, smile, walk, squat, roll on the floor if that’s what you genuinely feel. Authentic movement gives your performance a LOT more depth. No one wants to see a scarecrow with a poker face on stage!
I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again: Singing on stage is more than *just* singing on stage. It’s about creating an experience. These steps will help you get to the core of a song, and translate that into an AMAZING performance for your audience.
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